How should Christians respond to someone with autism?

There is no “official” Christian stand on autism spectrum disorder (ASD). The biblical directive is, “Love your neighbor as yourself” (James 2:8). This command has no exceptions; the Christian is to act in love toward someone with autism in the same way that he acts in love toward everyone else.

There are several biblical principles that could apply to some of the symptoms typically associated with autism. Here are some tips:

Be a friend (Proverbs 17:17). One of the greatest challenges of having autism is making and keeping friends. Don’t ignore someone with autism. Engage him or her in conversation and show a genuine interest in what he or she says, and feel free to share your own interests. If you are getting more information than you need, it’s okay to politely inform your autistic friend that you feel overwhelmed, but be careful not to show judgment or criticism. Advocate for those with autism and don’t allow others to belittle them.

Be direct (Ephesians 4:15). Generally speaking, an autistic person may not readily pick up on communication cues such as gestures, tone of voice, and body language. Don’t hint at things; be specific about how you feel and what you need.

Be wise (James 1:5). Research autism spectrum disorder, especially content from people with autism, to better understand the autistic person you’re ministering to. At the same time, don’t rely solely on third-party resources for your knowledge; get to know your autistic friend personally and don’t make assumptions about him or her. Ask if they want to join an activity or if they need a break. Respect the autistic person’s schedule and don’t force unnecessary changes to his or her routine.

Be loving (1 Peter 4:8). If “love covers over all wrongs” (Proverbs 10:12), then love can easily overlook the idiosyncrasies and quirks of the person with autism. Bear each other’s burdens and fulfill the law of Christ (Galatians 6:2). Follow the rule of love.

Be prayerful (James 5:16). A Christian is to “pray continually” (1 Thessalonians 5:19), so praying for a friend with autism should come naturally.

In Luke 10:29–37 Jesus tells of a man who gave aid to a stranger who had been beaten, robbed, and left for dead. In Jesus’ words, “A Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, brought him to an inn and took care of him” (Luke 10:33–34). When Jesus’ audience identified the Samaritan as a man who showed mercy, He said to them, “Go and do likewise” (Luke 10:37). Clearly, we honor God by displaying Christian compassion and mercy toward others in times of need. Christians should be aware of the unique needs of those with ASD and be willing to demonstrate the love of God to encourage and uplift them.