Tambaya
Yaya matsayin kusancin kusanci kafin aure?
Amsa
Afisawa 5:3 ta gaya mana, “Kada ma a ko ambaci fasikanci, da kowane irin aikin lalata ko kwaɗayi a tsakaninku, … domin kuwa bai dace da tsarkaka ba.” Duk wani abin da ya “alamu” ga lalata bai dace da Kirista ba. Littafi Mai Tsarki bai ba mu jerin abubuwan da suka cancanta a matsayin “ambato” ba ko kuma ya gaya mana irin ayyukan da aka yarda ma'aurata su yi kafin aure. Koyaya, kawai saboda Littafi Mai Tsarki bai yi magana game da batun ba yana nufin Allah ya yarda da yin “jima’i” kafin aure. A taƙaice, an tsara wasan kwaikwayo don samun shiri ɗaya don jima'i. A hankalce, yakamata a keɓance wasan kawai ga ma'aurata. Duk wani abu da za'a yi la'akari da shi kamar wasa ne to a kauce masa har zuwa aure.
Idan akwai wata shakka ko dai abin da ya dace da ma'aurata, ya kamata a kauce masa (Romawa 14:23). Duk wani abu da ya shafi jima'i da jima'I ya kamata a taƙaita ga ma'aurata. Ma'aurata marasa aure ya kamata su guji duk wani abin da zai jarabce su da yin jima'i, wanda zai ba da kamannin lalata, ko kuma abin da za a iya yi wa kallon fati. Yawancin fastoci da masu ba da shawara na Kirista suna ba da shawara sosai ga ma'aurata cewa kada su wuce bayan riƙe hannu, runguma, da sumbanta cikin sauƙi kafin aure. Da zarar ma'aurata suna da rabo su raba kansu kawai, mafi mahimmancin alaƙar jima'i a cikin auren ya zama.
English
Yaya matsayin kusancin kusanci kafin aure?